Mother’s Love

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The    time of motherhood is an essential time to form the essential    bonding and attachment that makes loving generations of people.    Mothers who are nurtured during pregnancy will be better nurturers    themselves. Seek the company of women believers in natural birth     and conscious mothering and most especially your partner. Pray,    meditate and visualize…

Let    there be light
Each  day is an opportunity to gather strength
To  face    the new role of motherhood
From  whatever blessings we have
Let    them help us to unveil the shrouded veil of fear
For    at the end it is still God who turns on the light

It    is in knowing what is expected during pregnancy, labor, and the    first year of taking care of our baby that mothers feel the strength    to carry on the new role. Be glad to join in the work of creation In    the unfolding of a new life from the joining of a male and a female.    Powered by the higher force, the same Almighty hand that brought    forth our parents’ lives. And all our mothers and fathers    before, a miracle of life grows within you.

“You    with faith and hope, can bring and nurture the new life into the    world. Pregnancy curves a new place in my being; all of me must unite    and work to nurture and contain my baby.”    Esperanza, a mother of six


Each    pregnancy is unique and brings in some special individuality and a    new set of experiences. We as mothers can make it through the journey    with grace and acceptance if we let ourselves listen to our bodies.

“The    most important thing you should carry when you are pregnant is a    happy disposition. Don’t allow any worries to weigh you down,    for your baby breaths and feels with you.”     Claudia,    a mother of seven

Don’t    be misled by advertising, by the routine medical practices in    hospitals or by health care givers, by the current culture –    entrenched ideas that tell us more of the unnatural ways of birthing    by mothers and feeding babies.

Mothers    know what is best for their bodies and their babies. Tuning in to    their bodies and feeling their babies inside their wombs help them    get the needed strength at the most intense part of their lives.


Believe    that you can surrender to the successful works of creation with    wisdom and conscious preparation. Connect with mothers before us and    with childbirth professionals (midwives,    educators, labor support, doctors) and    especially midwives who believe in our bodies.

From    mothers around the world who care about other mothers, let’s    examine what wisdom we can learn from them. The more we understand    the needs of mothers and babies the more we become good parents. We    take care of our babies the way we have been cared for by our parents    and then more towards perfection as we apply ways that work better.    Babies brings not only the intense happiness of being parents, they    are also our genetic afterlife. We must acknowledge the importance of    how we prepare ourselves as pregnant mothers and how we birth our    babies, for they make up an important experience for babies and most    of all for mothers.

As    we look at the important changes in a woman and as we look into the    eyes of babies, we will realize that motherhood is an important task    and that babies are responsive to their environment. We can create a    good environment for both mothers and babies by becoming aware of our    decisions and choices from the time of conception onward.


Pregnancy    – a sacred experience

One    day as I was strolling in downtown San Jose with my husband, a man    bowed down in front of me. I was on my last trimester of pregnancy    then. As I recall this episode to one of my mother friends who was    raised in Russia, she related how in her culture people believed in    the sacredness of fertility and pregnancy. I know that in the    Philippines women who want to get pregnant sometimes flock to the    street of a famous town to dance and sing to a patron saint. It is    known that praying and chanting to the Saint brings not only    fertility but a successful birth.

Over    many generations we have changed in the way we view pregnancy and    birth. Blessed are those mothers who are exposed to a culture which    allows the woman’s body to use its full capacity to deliver    babies. Some mothers have seen how other mothers breastfeed their    babies as a natural part of mothering. We who have lived in the    industrialized communities assigned the caring of pregnant mothers to    the professional community of health care givers. We ridicule those    who are old fashioned and traditional, knowing that our current    knowledge is enough to make babies.

I    who believe in technology, and my husband who is so progressive in    many ways, have both struggled in planning for my pregnancies. Even    my husband who believes in natural foods, protecting the environment,    and the lesser use of technology did not agree with homebirth and    midwives at first. But after learning that the midwifery model of    care is what birthing women need, he changed his perception about    midwives, who are really the keepers of natural birth, powers of women’s    bodies during birth, breastfeeding, family bed, and conscious    parenting. He even decisively agreed not to circumcise our son.


For    Mothers: Life is a set    of choices that can either make or break our passage into a more    rewarding one. As mothers you are endowed with the capacity to birth    beyond your imagination.

My    dear sister and friend don’t be surprised about the power of    your body to birth life! Do you want to celebrate? Do you feel    overwhelmed with the fact that you are carrying life in your womb?    Are you scared or feeling some sense of responsibility? My friend,    don’t be afraid, for your body is designed to carry life.

Know    that there are resources around you that    will help you nurture the life inside you. Talking to many grandmas,    mothers, my own mother, midwives and other health care professionals    prepared me for the coming of my new baby. Books (see    Authors), support    groups, childbirth classes, and my partner’s assistance in    seeing to it that I get my daily exercise of pelvic rocks, walks,    swims and excellent nutrition from natural sources provided the right    environment for my new baby. Your new baby needs your positive energy    and sense of well being.

Welcome    to the world of mothers. Mother you will now be called. Isn’t    it uplifting to know that you are carrying new life within you? In    the months ahead of you, you will feel very sensitive emotionally and    physically. This is because of the varying levels of hormones during    your pregnancy. The nine months of pregnancy allows you to understand    yourself and appreciate the strength that comes with carrying a    growing life within you. Many first time mothers are anxious to    deliver their babies and that’s ok.

Your     partner

This    period is an important time for yourself and your husband to bond to    each other. This bonding will help you through the demands of caring    for a newborn. Both you and your partner will feel the rewards of    parenting which only you and your partner know. It is important that    your partner should take part in your activities and plans. Your    partner will then feel that sense of responsibility and will be an    even better ally.

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connie dello buono

Health educator, author and enterpreneur motherhealth@gmail.com or conniedbuono@gmail.com ; cell 408-854-1883 Helping families in the bay area by providing compassionate and live-in caregivers for homebound bay area seniors. Blogs at www.clubalthea.com Currently writing a self help and self cure ebook to help transform others in their journey to wellness, Healing within, transform inside and out. This is a compilation of topics Connie answered at quora.com and posts in this site.

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