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Every Monday, we send you a snapshot of the news by highlighting what women are accomplishing and overcoming each week. On Thursdays, we send you a story we’ve explored on a deeper level, such as the ways Roxane Gay’s newest book, “Hunger,” confronts how we judge our bodies.

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The one that comes on Mondays

The Monday edition offers a rundown of the news. Sometimes we illustrate it with a newsworthy statistic, share powerful words from women or remind you of something that happened in history. We also include recommendations, so you know what we’re reading, listening to or excited about. Take a look:

Charlottesville victim disparaged on neo-Nazi website

A memorial for Heather Heyer. (Scott Olsen/Getty)

On Sunday, GoDaddy announced it will no longer house the Daily Stormer, a neo-Nazi website that promotes white supremacist and white nationalist ideas. The company said the site “violated” the Web host’s “terms of agreement” after a Twitter user called attention to a post disparaging Heather Heyer, the 32-year-old woman killed Saturday in Charlottesville, Va. In the post, Daily Stormer founder Andrew Anglin said Heyer was a “drain on society,” commented on her appearance and wrote: “Most people are glad she is dead.”

Heyer was among those gathered to oppose the neo-Nazis, Ku Klux Klan members and white nationalists when a man drove into a crowd of counterprotesters, killing Heyer and injuring 19 others. The suspect, James Alex Fields Jr., fled the scene but was later arrested. He is facing multiple charges, including one count of second-degree murder.

The 49ers’ new coach

Katie Sowers is expected to become the second female full-time assistant coach in NFL history, she announced on her Facebook page Saturday. After completing her internship as part of the San Francisco 49ers’ Bill Walsh NFL Diversity Coaching Fellowship, Sowers is expected to join the team as a coach.

“It’s groundbreaking and all that stuff, but the more normalized it is, the better it is,” Sowers told the Mercury News last week.

‘Rape insurance’

On Saturday night, the Republican-controlled Texas Senate backed a plan to restrict insurance coverage for abortions. No exceptions would be made in cases of fetal abnormalities, rape or incest. Under the bill, women will need to purchase extra insurance to cover abortions except amid medical emergencies.

If Gov. Greg Abbott signs the bill as expected, Texas will join 10 other states that have laws restricting insurance coverage of abortion in private insurance plans.

Mental health disorders are the most common complication of pregnancy, but maternal health remains vastly underdiagnosed and undertreated. Only 15 percent of women affected seek professional help. The American Congress of Obstetricians and Gynecologists recommends women be screened at least once for depression during pregnancy and again in the postnatal period.

Horizon: Zero Dawn

Interested in gaming but looking to play as a strong female lead? “Horizon: Zero Dawn” is captivating, easy to play, and features a fantastic lead character. The dystopian open-world game allows you to fight robotic beasts.
-Rachel Hatzipanagos, Lily contributor and Washington Post producer

The one that comes on Thursdays

The Thursday edition takes on one story at a time. Sometimes, we’re sharing something from pop culture that we saw as noteworthy (i.e. Jessica Williams’s new Netflix movie, “The Incredible Jessica James”). Other weeks, we focus on news you can use, like the pay guide below:

People get scared by the word “negotiation,” but it’s just a conversational skill. Remember: “You listen, they listen,” says Rachel Kim, a senior career coach at SoFi.

If you’ve never negotiated a salary before, Kim says to start practicing by negotiating other things in your life, like choosing what movie to go to or what coach to buy.

 

Have a bottom, middle and high number in mind while you’re interviewing, so you’re not caught off-guard when an employer asks about your salary history or what you’re hoping to make.

The easiest places for initial research: glassdoor.com and salary.com.

You can also connect with people who’ve been in the position before and are now more senior. Ask them: “Given what you know about what I do, what is the range I should be looking at?”

“You’re going to have much more power [once you have an offer] because they are now invested in you,” says Linda Babcock, author of “Ask For It: How Women Can Use the Power of Negotiation to Get What They Really Want.

In the early-to-middle stages of the process, you want to manage your risk, says Kim. Try not to give them a number.

Here’s a sample script that Kim suggested:

“I’m so excited for this opportunity to interview with you. I think you’ll hear from my stories of experiences and skillsets that I would add great value to your organization. But I think this is too early in the process to talk numbers. I don’t want to say anything that will be so off, and I’m looking forward to learning more about the responsibilities, and discussing my technical and cultural fit into your organization.”

If they keep pushing for a number, though, give them a reasonable to high number.

‘If you need me to give you a number right away, from research, it looks like this is the range I’m seeing. Does this look right to you?”

Give yourself a day or two to form a strategy for how you’re going to handle the negotiation.

Here’s a sample script that Babcock suggested:

“This is a really exciting opportunity. I want some time to think about it, and can we discuss the specifics of the offer in a couple of days once I’ve had some time to reflect upon it?”

If you’re in a weaker bargaining position (you would take the salary offered), you want to use a little bit softer language. Say something like:

“I’m really excited about this offer. Is it possible for you to increase the salary to Y?”

If you’re in a stronger position, you can say:

“Based on the other offers that I have/my current position, I’m going to need you to increase that salary to Z in order to accept the job. Is that possible?”

“When you’re at the offer stage, that’s when you can go back and say, ‘I know this is initially the number we discussed, but given what I’m learning about this position and [list what you’ll bring to the table], I’m wondering if there’s room to move my salary up by this percent,’” says Kim. “I don’t think it hurts to ask one more time.”

You may be thinking, “I’m so lucky to have this job!”

Remember, this job is lucky to have you too.

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