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Seniors share homes for costs saving

It’s not exactly “The Golden Girls,” but for Marcia Rosenfeld, it’ll do.

Rosenfeld is among thousands of aging Americans taking part in home-sharing programs around the country that allow seniors to stay in their homes and save money while getting some much-needed companionship.

“It’s a wonderful arrangement,” said the white-haired Rosenfeld, who when asked her age will only say she’s a senior citizen. “The way the rents are these days, I couldn’t stay here without it.”

She shares her two-bedroom, $1,000-a-month Brooklyn apartment with Carolyn Allen, a 69-year-old widow who has suffered two strokes and no longer wants to live alone.

Agencies that put such seniors together say the need appears to be growing as baby boomers age and struggle to deal with foreclosures, property taxes and rising rents. The typical situation involves an elderly woman, widowed or divorced, who has a house or an apartment with extra room and needs help with the upkeep.

“Our seniors want to remain part of the community they were raised in, where they worked and went to church,” said Jackie Grossman, director of the home-sharing program at Open Communities in the Chicago suburbs. “They don’t want to be just with other seniors. Maybe they love their garden, their tool shed, and they would have to give that up if they move into senior housing.”

At the New York Foundation for Senior Citizens, where applicants have tripled since 2008, the average boarder pays about $700 a month. The same average holds at the HIP Housing program in San Mateo, California, but it is about $500 at the St. Ambrose Housing Aid Center in Baltimore.

Agencies handle the background checks and other screening and consider various lifestyle criteria, smoking, pets, disposable income, in making matches. When a match is made, the new roommates sign an agreement covering chores, overnight visitors, telephone use, etc.

Not all agencies limit applicants to seniors. In the New York program, only one of the two people has to be 60 or older.

The agencies’ services mean people who want a roommate don’t have to post notices in neighborhood weeklies or online and worry about who will respond.

“Craigslist can be very scary, especially for women,” said Connie Skillingstad, president of Golden Girl Homes Inc. in Robbinsdale, Minnesota, which refers women to housing resources including home-sharing. “They’d rather go through a respectable organization.”

In the past, program directors say, many of the people offering space were willing to take household help, grocery shopping, housecleaning, repair work, in lieu of some or all of the rent.

Recently, though, more people have insisted on dollars rather than services.

“In the last five years, we’ve really seen more people looking for financial aid rather than barter,” said Kirby Dunn, executive director of Homeshare Vermont in Burlington.

Companionship is an important side benefit.

“Independence is great but isolation as we age is a growing concern, so companionship can be almost life-altering,” Dunn said. “People are telling us they’re happier, sleeping better, eating better. If I could sell you a drug that did that, you’d pay a lot of money.”

Grossman said many long-lasting friendships develop, “and for others there’s just mutual respect and that’s fine, too.”

Rosenfeld and Allen, who have been roommates for three years, both said they feel more like business associates than longtime friends like TV’s “Golden Girls,” but they gabbed like sisters and giggled about the apparent highlight of their time together: “The bathtub incident.”

Allen, who gets around with the help of a walker, had slipped in the bathtub and gotten stuck, with one leg wedged awkwardly behind her. She tried and tried but couldn’t get up.

“If I was living alone I might have been there for days,” she said. But Rosenfeld was home, and although she’s too petite to extract Allen from the tub, she was able to call 911 and provide a towel for Allen to cover herself when rescuers arrived.

“Thank God Marcia was there,” Allen said.

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In the bay area, you may contact Motherhealth Inc, affordable caregiving to match you with seniors or caregivers or room share/renters. Must present a valid and current background check. 408-8541883 motherhealth@gmail.com

 

Published by connie dello buono

Connie Dello Buono is based in Sunnyvale California. Her first ebook is about women's health, Birthing Ways Healing Ways and her recent one is about cancer prevention, Curated Healing Ways. She had helped women have holistic childbirth as childbirth educator, founded Motherhealth, to serve seniors in the bay area with holistic caregivers and blogs at www.clubalthea.com with more than 10,000 health and finance related posts. Connie trains her own caregivers, which are the favorites of most bay area seniors who are home bound and alone. She is active in the rehab and nursing facilities, volunteering on music and movement for seniors. She is a member of Lion's club and offered scholarships to students in the Philippines. She is active at churchinsunnyvale.us and has Fridays Bible home study in Sunnyvale using the recovery version of the Bible , free at biblesforamerica.us She loves dancing and teaching and her courses can be found at https://teachclub.com/@thriveafter60 She is California Life Insurance licensed providing life insurance for older adults with health issues and helping women retire safely with income for life. at menloassetca.com , she helps with 401k rollover. 3 Benefit plans - Mortgage protection using term life insurance to pay for mortgage balance in event of death - Final Expense plan using Single Issue Whole Life Insurance, with cash back, disability benefit and guaranteed in the presence of health issues - Fixed Index Annuity retirement plan for safe, accessibility, less fees, less taxes, avoids probate as it goes directly to beneficiaries, rate of return with no downside market participation. She brings compassion and understanding to the needs of her clients, bringing holistic approach in health and life insurance. Her goal is to free families from worries especially during covid with caregivers and life insurance in the presence of health issues, especially for women. She can be reached at 408-854-1883 , motherhealth@gmail.com

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