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Once I massaged a pregnant woman while I provide childbirth tips to her. She followed my advice of walking one mile a day and other tips. Two weeks later she had her baby and only spent two hours in labor at the hospital. All natural birth happened so bonding with mother and baby went well.

During the three years that I was a full time mother to care for my two toddlers, I read medical, nursing and midwifery books which led me to my contract job as pharmacy technician instructor in the bay area which lasted for a year and  then I went back to the corporate world.

When pregnant, walk a mile a day for easy labor. When the baby is born, massage baby with calendula oil before each bath.

Happy birthing so they say. I also pray to parents who lost their babies via environmental toxins, miscarriage, forces of nature but seldom through childbirth in this century. May God and their community give them lots of love.




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Adverse Childhood Experiences

We have to be compassionate to our children from the time they are born till the end.

I delivered my children at home with midwives and employed homebirth, breastfeeding, massage and mindfullness – conscious parenting until their adulthood. We should learn to be compassionate, forgiving and nurturing at all times.

The following are basic and important needs to address the tuning out of children during the time of adverse childhood experience: sleep, mental health, nutrition, creation of a less stressful – more compassionate environment , mindfulness nurturing and education for all the team (health professionals, community and family).


The ACE Study is one of the largest investigations ever conducted to assess connections between chronic stress caused by early adversity and later-life health. The study began with a partnership between Kaiser Permanente and the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. It looked at multiple categories of childhood physical and emotional abuse and neglect, as well as measures of household dysfunction like domestic violence, parental mental illness, substance abuse and separation/divorce.

The results of the ACE Study had two striking findings. First, ACEs are incredibly common—67 percent (2 out of 3 people) of the study population had at least one ACE and 13 percent (1 out of 8 people) of the population had four or more ACEs. Secondly, there was a dose-response relationship between ACEs and numerous health problems. This means that the more ACEs a child has, the higher the risk of developing chronic illnesses such as heart disease, chronic obstructive pulmonary disease (COPD), depression and cancer.

Research over the last two decades confirms that children carry the effects of childhood experiences into adulthood. The challenges they face in school, life and ultimately, the state of their health are often the symptoms of toxic stress. Toxic stress, unlike manageable stress, refers to the long-term changes in brain architecture and organ systems that develop after extreme, prolonged and repeated stress goes untreated. Exposure to ACEs may put our children at higher risk for learning difficulties, emotional problems, developmental issues and long-term health problems.

Effective screening and interventions can save children and their communities a lifetime of costly health issues, and the Center for Youth Wellness aims to serve as a national model for addressing exposure to ACEs. Our goal is to transform the way medicine responds to the challenges facing our children—especially in disadvantaged communities.

Looking to calculate your ACE score? Check out the tool on AcesTooHigh



Good news, congrats for having a baby, caring for your baby

Congratulations for the birth of your baby.


Touch and massage are simple forms of communication. The baby’s skin is more sensitive than that of an adult. Massage lightly with the surface of your fingers and palm. Start from the hands and feet.

Use calendula oil or another natural, light oil such as Almond or Arnica oil. This oil can be used as postnatal care:

  • loosen and relaxes the new baby
  • gently removes the cradle cap on baby’s head
  • protects baby’s delicate skin

Other aromatherapy oil for postnatal care can consist of St John’s Wort, Arnica, Calendula oil, Betula, Vitamin E and pure essential oils of Chamomile, Lavender, Rosemary, sweet Almond and Olive oils.

Baby, Birth and Mothering

Easing the baby’s transition from the womb to the outside world is the most important task of the mother. The mother who is conscious of the needs of the child who was used to life inside her womb bonds well with the baby. She knows and feels the baby’s need for breastfeeding, sleep, and be cared for by her loving hands and presence. A happy mom breeds a happy baby. A healthy diet makes a healthy mother and baby. To care for our babies, we have to care for ourselves.

There are times when the mother has to seek support from others when she herself is suffering from postpartum depression and especially when the baby was born prematurely that his/her young body is still coping with the outside world. Sometimes the baby would cry due to discomforts that the body feels after being born prematurely or with so much medical procedures. Every month the baby shows signs of maturity from his/bowel digestive system, sensory perceptions and other developmental growth.

I salute a mom whom I know who cared for her premature baby and took her home after three months in the intensive care, nursed her from a tube attached to her finger and gave her the medication she needs as directed by the nurses. I thank God for the neighbor who took care of the baby of a mother suffering from postpartum psychosis for almost nine months until the mother was ready emotionally and physically to care for her baby. I know of a mom who knows her own mother’s predisposition to postpartum psychosis that before her baby was born she sought an herbalist to help her during postpartum.

The smile of the baby is the sign of a contented baby and the sign of a nurturing mother. A healthy baby who seldom cries is a result of the non-stop care of the mother who feeds, cleans, and provides for the comfort of her baby. The presence of the mother comforts the baby and the presence of the father or other family members are an extra bonus. That extra leap of growth from bonding with the parents makes baby feel loved and secure.

Beverly Morgan, author of the audiotape, Reading Your Baby’s Body Language, tells new mothers the many ways to explore their babies’ body language as they relate to breastfeeding. Watch the signals that the baby makes when he or she is ready to nurse, to defecate or urinate, to change position and many more things that we learn from babies.


Tips: I massage baby’s body with calendula oil before each bath and using Dr Breuner’s soap. Sleeping with baby, breastfeeding and massaging them when they are sick helps. Each one of us, as parents must endure letting them go when they become adults or even having their own bedroom at 8 yrs of age. Now my babies are 18 and 20. All born at home with midwives.

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The Newborn after Birth





Newborns feel, remember and are influenced by their experiences. During the first few weeks of life, they need mother’s milk (if possible), warmth and sleep. When travelling, mothers before us have worn a sling to carry baby around in which rocks the newborn to sleep. Sleeping with their mothers helps newborn babies to regulate their breathing. I have practiced sleeping together with my children from the time they were born.

Most mothers observed that full term and healthy babies have less colic problems especially when they are breastfed and massaged before or after each bath. Nelson Textbook on Pediatrics stated that crying from intestinal discomfort and intestinal obstruction or peritoneal infection may mimic an attack of colic and the following preventive measures can be sought: improving feeding techniques, including burping, providing a stable environment, identifying possible allergenic foods and avoiding underfeeding or overfeeding.
A study on the abilities of newborns tells us that:

  •  After about an hour and a half, infants began to make crawling movements toward their mother’s breast.
  • At an average of fifty minutes after birth most were sucking correctly (they open their mouth wide, with the tongue under the areola, and express milk from the breast with deep sucks). This happens in a setting where the room is darkened, loud noises are avoided and people speak in low voices.
  • Infants separated from their mothers at twenty minutes generally cried out loudly in protest.
  • The first hour of contact of the mother with her baby skin-to-skin on her abdomen provides time to know each other.
  • Mother tends to fall in love with the baby sooner when the baby is kept with her immediately after birth.
  • They can recognize their own infants from others by merely touching the backs of the babies’ hands or by smelling their clothing.
  • The mother can feel herself into the infant’s place.
  •  There are still many things that we don’t know about newborns including the essential nutrients that they derive from mother’s milk. That is why we continually modify the formulation in the so called Baby Formula.
  • Touch, love, constant care and happy parents are what newborn wants….
  • The midwife catches the baby and promotes a calm birth experience for the baby. Experiences inside the womb and at birth influence the shaping of human personality. Impact of roots of violence can take hold in prenatal life.
  • Infant trauma inside the womb can influence the future of the newborn.

When the new baby needs to be seen by a doctor

The American College of Nurse Midwives has the following instructions to parents of new babies about when to call their caregiver (midwife or doctor). Parents are the first to observe their babies and should call their midwife or doctor when they see any of the danger signals below:
1. Dehydration – fewer and fewer wet diapers, dry inside of mouth (put little finger in baby’s mouth and let it suck – should feel wet and slippery, not dry and sticky). Be especially alert if the weather is hot, the baby has diarrhea, is not nursing well or acts sick.
2. Won’t eat – disinterested in nursing, too weak or sleepy to suck, few wet diapers, several days without stool. Seek out breastfeeding advice.
3. Abnormal skin color/Jaundice – if the baby becomes increasingly yellow/orange (especially the hands and feet), becomes too sleepy to nurse, wets few diapers (3 or less a day), has no stools. Cyanosis (bluish color) or very pale skin color. Both are very dangerous signs, often accompanied by respiratory distress (working hard to breathe). Go immediately to a hospital, a doctor or call 911.
4. Change in consciousness – very fussy, high-pitched-cry, a weak cry, or acts like he or she has a stiff neck, has poor color (very pale or bluish), is hard to wake up or has a fever. However, little babies can be very sick and still not have an elevated temperature. These serious problems may be caused by a dangerous infection, bleeding in the brain, or heart and lung problems that keep the baby from getting enough oxygen.
5. Bleeding, bruising, blood-filled lumps under the skin, bloody diarrhea or urine; except for a few drops of watery-blood from the umbilical stump when it is failing off or in the baby’s diaper, babies shouldn’t bleed or bruise. Be especially concerned if the baby is exclusively breast-fed or did not receive Vitamin K at birth. Seek medical help and be sure to tell the doctor if the baby did not receive Vitamin K. Expect a blood test (PPT) to help diagnose a deficiency in blood clotting factors.


written by  Connie Dello Buono
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Feeding with Mother’s Milk

breastfed babies

Most mothers around the world agree that:

  • The mother’s heartbeat is the baby’s lullaby music.
  • The mother’s milk has sleep inducing benefits.
  • The mother’s milk is not dropable like a bottle and is easy to carry around.
  • The mother’s milk stores the baby’s milk at just the right temperature.
  • The mother’s milk is readily available any time the baby sucks or cries.
  • The mother’s milk stays in a sterile place and stays warm.
  • The mother’s milks do not need sterilizing, boiling or cleaning with soap (for nipples).
  • The mother’s milks size does not matter since they always produce the right amount of milk for her baby.
  • The mother’s milks only absolutely need to be suckled by the baby.
  • The mother’s milk makes traveling easy for both baby and mom.
  • The mother’s milk appears pleasing in a natural way to dad’s eyes when nursing the baby.
  • The mother’s milk provides the comfort the baby needs when tired, hungry or sick.

The many benefits of milk for mothers and babies include:

  • Phosphorous which is important for brain growth and development.

  • Antibodies that will protect the baby against invading organisms.

  • The effect of a natural vaccine without the risk of artificial vaccines.

  • Being always in the right formulation with the baby’s age.

  • The absence of allergens.

  • Comforting the baby’s stomach rather than disturbing it.

  • More iron and other nutrients that are readily absorbed by the baby.

We can tell our partners and friends why we milkfeed our babies. The following sentences reaffirm our commitment to milkfeed our babies:

  • milkfeeding is the mother’s gift only the mother can give.

  • milkfeeding helps make more loving and caring children.

  • milkfeeding is the most human form of feeding.

  • milkfeeding makese it easier to discipline children.

  • milkfeeding is nature’s way of helping mom be in love with her baby.

  • milkfeeding makes dad happy when seeing his wife and baby nourishing each other.

  • milkfeeding helps remove mother’s worries for the day.

  • milkfeeding increases opportunity for the baby to be massaged by the mother.

  • milkfeeding helps mom know her child’s growth and developmental changes better.

  • milkfeeding helps bring greater rewards for the future generation.

Right Start milkfeeding Tips

  • Prepare your nipples, eat well, and sleep when your newborn is sleeping.

  • Maintain a healthy diet with four fresh vegetables and three kinds of fruits a day. Drink lots of water or juices. A hot soup or soupy dish rich in sea foods and grains is important.

  • Put your babies to your milk as soon after they are born as possible.

  • Seek the support of mothers who have milkfed their babies. If milk engorgement occurs: apply warm compress, soak your milk in warm water, make sure that the baby empties your milks, and follow proper positioning and latching on as instructed by your midwife.

milkfeeding More than one Baby

If you have twins, you are doubly committed to the task of milkfeeding. Your partner is an important resource in giving you time to milkfeed both your babies at the same time or one at a time. Since most twins are premature and tend to be sleepy, not sucking well for the first couple of weeks, a lactation counselor or consultant can help you with the proper latch-on techniques. Get the right start milkfeeding tips before sore nipples or milk supply problems occur. Research has shown that mothers who milkfeed twins simultaneously have higher elevations of the mothering hormone prolactin than those who nurse one baby at a time.

Mother’s needs: The needs of a mother are increased with each child to milkfeed so a recommended 3,000 cal/day and increased fluid intake are necessary to maintain the proper nutrition of the mother. Rest is important and support from family and friends can do a great deal in the success of milkfeeding twins or multiples.

Baby’s needs: If one of the babies is less demanding, wake that baby up for simultaneous feeding with the hungrier baby during the day. milkfeed him or her during the night to allow greater weight gain.

For milkfeeding Positions for Twins, ask your midwife, milkfeeding consultant or childbirth educator:

  • Double clutch hold

  • Cross-cradle position

  • Parallel position: One baby is in the cradle hold and one is in the clutch hold with their bodies lying in the same direction.

The Family sleeping together helps the baby slowly adjust to his or her environment.

My second child shared bed with us until he was three years of age.

I can feel the contrasting differences between him and his brother who did not shared bed with us. He is so loving to me and we know each other’s feelings. He was so attached to me that he cried when I left him and his brother for work abroad. Nurse, mother of two, Philippines

Sharing bed is an old tradition in the Far East. By necessity, a big family of six children shares bed usually on the floor with a mat. Until the children reach the age of about five or six years old.


From Connie’s “Birthing Ways Healing Ways” , an ebook on childbirth, baby care and breastfeeding

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Comments: The above pic was taken 6 weeks after these homebirth babies were born in San Jose California in 1994. Now the babies are 19 yr olds and doing well.  All  these babies were breastfed by homebirth moms who were cared for by bay area midwives.