Free childbirth ebook from Connie

Dear Readers,

I am sharing my childbirth and women’s health ebook to all.

When Birthing Ways Healing Ways came out at amazon , sold my ebook to Amazon and so I did not get a penny. I was new to publishing and I love writing about my childbirth experience with Nurse Midwives in the bay area so I write for it is my passion.

So now, I am giving away my ebook in the hopes of getting referrals to my bay area senior caregiving , health coaching and health talks and soon an ecommerce site for

The link below contains my ebook, email me at for your feedback.

Once I massaged a pregnant woman while I provide childbirth tips to her. She followed my advice of walking one mile a day and other tips. Two weeks later she had her baby and only spent two hours in labor at the hospital. All natural birth happened so bonding with mother and baby went well.

During the three years that I was a full time mother to care for my two toddlers, I read medical, nursing and midwifery books which led me to my contract job as pharmacy technician instructor in the bay area which lasted for a year and  then I went back to the corporate world.

When pregnant, walk a mile a day for easy labor. When the baby is born, massage baby with calendula oil before each bath.

Happy birthing so they say. I also pray to parents who lost their babies via environmental toxins, miscarriage, forces of nature but seldom through childbirth in this century. May God and their community give them lots of love.




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Before, during and after pregnancy diet

Many tumors in young children might be influenced by the environment in utero and months before conception.

Some drugs or medications linger in a woman’s body months before conception. During the first trimester, a miscarriage is possible when the embryo or fetus is not completely formed (nervous system and major organs).

A study related the older age of a man who is alcoholic and young age (of mother with borderline diabetes) to the chance of having a baby with bipolar disorder.

Older women tend to have higher IQ babies. But I believe that nurture during and after the birth of the baby helps in ensuring healthy and growing cells.  I massaged my babies during the first year of their lives before each bath.

In cases of SID, blue babies or newborn who have difficulty breathing during labor and after birth or did not breath at all, they are greatly influenced by the environment (healthy mother with no environmental toxins) during pregnancy.

One mile walk a day (mother) can prevent a long labor and provide oxygenation to the growing baby. During labor, be in seated (sideways) or upright, incorporate deep belly breaths in between contractions and have a helper pressed your ankle to facilitate labor.

Any drugs, legal, OTC, prescribed, alcohol, toxic foods, pools with fungus,molds, parasites or bacteria, cat poops and other toxins can affect the growing fetus.

Pregnant mother’s diet

  • Fresh whole foods, avoiding crustaceans since they are bottom feeders and tend to soak up more toxins
  • Avoid too much consumption of sugar, alcohol and salt in the absence of fiber-rich veggies
  • Avoid medications, drugs, alcohol and smoking
  • Get some nature walks, sunshine
  • Cooked green veggies every day if possible
  • During the first trimester, eat more greens and proteins and more healthy carbs during the last trimester
  • Eat iron rich food during the last trimester such as greens, mollases, dark chocolates, raisins, liver and meat (Liquid Fluradix supplement from whole foods or chelated iron can be used if needed based on blood tests)
  • Lemon and vinegar helps in the absorption of nutrients from whole foods
  • Take probiotics or prepare a homemade pickled veggies
  • Make your own fresh squeezed veggies juice if possible
  • Wash fresh produce with salt water and/or diluted vinegar

Free childbirth, mother care and baby care ebook by Connie Dello Buono

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When Birthing Ways Healing Ways came out at amazon , sold my ebook to Amazon and so I did not get a penny. I was new to publishing and I love writing about my childbirth experience with Nurse Midwives in the bay area so I write for it is my passion.

So now, I am giving away my ebook in the hopes of getting referrals to my life insurance and annuities brokerage business.

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The above link contains my ebook, email me at for your feedback.

Also, I am giving childbirth classes to couples, 3-5 couples at a time in my San Jose place, Monday – Sunday from 8am to 8pm, 2-hr session at a time (3-5 couples). Contact 408-854-1883. The two-hour childbirth class will be everything you need to know and extra service after the baby is born. A pledge in the amount you are comfortable with based on the service I provide would be appropriate.

Once I massaged a pregnant woman while I provide childbirth tips to her. She followed my advice of walking one mile a day and other tips. Two weeks later she had her baby and only spent two hours in labor in the hospital. All natural birth happened so bonding with mother and baby went well.

There are many benefits to the services I provide aside from knowing mother and baby massage, breastfeeding and all the questions you wanted to be answered about mother and baby. I apprenticed with midwives in the bay area and also took some midwifery lessons from Oregon School of Midwifery.

During the three years that I was a full time mother to care for my two toddlers, I read medical, nursing and midwifery books which led me to my contract job as pharmacy technician instructor.

Since then, I gave advice and help to pregnant mothers. The book by Dr Sears, Baby Book, helped new fathers and mothers understand more about babies and it helped me too.

Happy birthing so they say. I also pray to parents who lost their babies via environmental toxins, miscarriage, forces of nature but seldom through childbirth in this century. May God and  their community give them lots of love.

Pain and depression, childbirth pain and mothering

Mothers like me who had a home birth and mothers who had surgical birth experienced pain in different ways. When I was teaching childbirth, I shared my stories but each mother can create their own memories during childbirth. What is important is the support system. I was blessed to be with nurse midwives. Learning more about the process, giving in to nature and our own bodies helped. But please walk a mile a day during pregnancy and eat whole foods.

Breastfeeding is more difficult for me. So in my ebook, Birthing Ways Healing Ways, I wrote all the tips I can give to new mothers. Email me for a free copy at

Connie Dello Buono


Here is the recent news about pain relief during childbirth…(you be the judge mothers)

Women who receive an epidural during childbirth significantly lower their risk of postpartum depression, according to new research.

Study participants whose pain was managed during labor had a 14 percent rate of depression six weeks after delivery, compared to a nearly 35 percent rate of depression for those who did not have the pain relief. The study also found that women who attended childbirth classes during pregnancy and those who breastfed after labor also lowered their risk of postpartum depression. Breastfeeding was more common in the group that had an epidural for pain (70 percent) compared to those who did not (50 percent).

The study, which will be published in the August issue of Anesthesia & Analgesia, involved 214 women, half of whom were given an epidural to reduce their pain during the vaginal delivery of their child. The other 107 participants were not given any pain medication during delivery. The mental statuses of all study participants were examined three days after delivery, and again six weeks after delivery, using an established postnatal depression scale.

“It’s a huge omission that there has been almost nothing in postpartum depression research about pain during labor and delivery and postpartum depression,” Katherine Wisner, M.D., a Northwestern Medicine® perinatal psychiatrist, said in a press release. “There is a well-known relationship between acute and chronic pain and depression.”

Up to 80 percent of new mothers experience some degree of emotional distress after childbirth. It is common for women to have a range of emotions, including weepiness, anxiety, and mood swings. However, if these symptoms last longer than two weeks and become more severe, postpartum depression (PPD) could be the reason. PPD is a type of clinical depression with symptoms such as fatigue or exhaustion, changes in appetite or eating habits, loss of interest in activities you usually enjoyed, and physical pain, including, headaches, stomachaches, or backaches. According to the American Psychological Association, between 9 and 16 percent of women will experience PPD, which can have significant consequences for both the new mother and family.

According to Wisner, managing acute postpartum pain supports the new mother’s ability to emotionally attach and care for her infant. “Pain control gets the mother off to a good beginning, rather than starting off defeated and exhausted,” she said. “Whether it’s vaginal or cesarean-section delivery, pain control postpartum is an issue for all new mothers. There is no way to have a delivery without pain. The objective here is to avoid severe pain. Controlling that delivery pain so a woman can comfortably develop as a mother is something that makes a lot of sense.”

Wisner recommends that women who experience chronic pain one to two months after delivery be screened for depression.

Cultural Differences on pregnancy and baby care by Connie

One way of sharing the nurturing practices that we give to mothers and babies is through our cultural lifestyles and practices. Please email me at for other cultural practices that you know about concerning caring for women during their childbearing years.  Note that most of these cultural differences are present hundred years ago as the new century mothers are now delivering babies in the hospitals and families are spread in different parts of the globe.

In some rural places in the Philippines, a pregnant woman is a sign of  blessings. She brings in good fortune. Children are considered as wealth. Families filled their homes with display of certificates or    diplomas of their educated children. For poor families, children are    viewed as source of income later on when they can earn for a living.

The    mother of a pregnant mother is the doula or    the care giver after the baby is born. The father is viewed as always    the provider. A midwife called     “Komadrona” who attends to the birth. She or another person    massage the mother during pregnancy, labor,    and after delivering the baby.    The midwife only needs boiled water to attend to the laboring mother.

After    delivering the baby, the mother’s stomach is wrapped by a piece    of cloth and massaged every three days for two months to ensure that    the uterus goes back to its proper place. Rice when served to the    baby or red pepper applied to the nipples is used to wean the baby    after a few years of nursing. The average year of nursing    length is four years. The juice from a freshly cut young coconut is    used as a supplemental food for the baby. It is also used during the    last trimester of pregnancy to ease labor.

The    wish of a pregnant woman is always respected. She is not provoked or    argued with since her emotions affect the unborn child. Herbs    are used during pregnancy, labor, and postpartum.

The    liquid from boiled guava leaves is used for cleansing the mother    during postpartum. It serves as an antiseptic medication. Coconut oil    is the most popularly used massage    oil. Clams or any shell fish are served as soup to the mother during    the last trimester of pregnancy and during nursing to increase the    milk supply. The breast is also massaged during pregnancy to prepare    the breast for nursing.

When    in labor and the baby is breach    (baby’s head close to mom’s heart), a massage therapist can bring the    baby to its desired position, head first. Incense is used with the sitz    bath remedy while the mother is wrapped in a hot towel during    postpartum. A preparation with charcoal and herbs (indirectly applied    to the mother’s bottom) is used as the sitz bath itself. Boiled    rain water is also used.Sex    is resumed only after three months. In the cities of the    Philippines, the same practice applies depending upon the    availability of the lay midwife, massage therapist, and the environment.

In    Taiwan, a postpartum mother is placed in a communal place with the    care of doulas together with other postpartum mothers. For about two    months, they are cared for. This kind of service exist solely for    mothering the mother.

In    Ethiopia, the mother is also cared for the first three months during    postpartum by relatives or helpers. Though circumcision for girls is    still prevalent in some areas, educated women tend to do away with it.

In Russia, it is common to nurse more than one baby when supply is great.

A mother who is in the same hospital room with other new mothers who    also just delivered babies recalled how one mother volunteered to nurse her baby while her breast is still coping up with its supply of milk.

Advice from folks in the Philippines:

You should not nap in the afternoon that long since you might have    difficulty in delivering a bigger baby.

Drink the juice of a young coconut for easy labor.

Midwives delivering babies for hundreds of years

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Midwife    means “with woman.” Traditionally, women have attended and    assisted other women during labor and birth. As modern medicine    emerged in the West, birth fell into the    realm of the medical. Today the medical or technocratic model of    birth is the mainstream in America while other countries, who use    midwives as the primary care givers for natural pregnancies, use the    holistic midwifery model of care.

The    World Health Organization acknowledges that midwives should be the    primary care giver for women with natural pregnancy or low risk while    doctors should care for the high risk (which may includes twins,    breeches and other pregnancies that require the facility of a    hospital). The table below    (adapted from the book, Birth as an American Rite of Passage    by Robbie Davis-Floyd; U.C. Press, Los Angeles, 1992)shows    differences between the medical and the midwifery model of care.

Medical – Technocratic

Midwifery – Holistic

Male centered, woman is an        object/patient, male body is the norm, classifying and separating        approach to care, mind is above and separate from body, female body        is a defective machine

Female centered, woman is a client,        the female body is the norm and normal on her own terms, holistic and        integrating approach to care, mind and body are one, female body is a        healthy organism, and pregnancy and birth are inherently healthy


Midwives    make sure that the woman will have a natural pregnancy through    proper prenatals and responsible and conscious mothering. During the    1960s and 1970s, along with the women’s movement and renewed interest    in homebirth, the midwifery movement rekindled. It has been growing    steadily ever since.

Midwives    are becoming more and more involved with birthing families and have    been instrumental in redefining birth as a natural event in women’s    lives. They offer family and women centered birthsto    empower people with the experience of birth.

How    to Choose a Midwife

Choose    a midwife with whom you feel confident and compatible with your    beliefs about birth and your body.The    following questions may help the pregnant woman to select a midwife    who is well suited to her and her family:

  • How     did she become a midwife?

  • What     training has she had? Is she certified or licensed by any organizations?

  • What     is her basic philosophy of childbirth?

  • How     many births has she attended as the primary midwife?

  • What     is the fee for her services, how must it be paid, what does it include?

  • What     kinds of services are included in prenatal care?

  • Does     she work with other midwives or assistants at births?

  • How     do you reach the midwife; does she allow 24 hour access?

  • How     does she handle problems or complications that might develop during labor?

  • What     emergency standard equipment does she carry? What herbs or medicine     does she use? Which ones does she carry and why? Does she have any     affiliation with a physician who can answer unusual questions either     during the pregnancy or in an emergency?

  • What     is her policy for transporting to a hospital?

  • What     kind of postpartum care does she provide? (frequency of baby     check-ups; assistance with nursing)

In    addition to asking these questions, it is important to be clear    about what you expect from your midwife. Be prepared to share your    vision of your birth and discuss any fears that you may have.    Determine if the midwife’s answers to your questions agree with your    desires. Trust your instincts. You will know when you have found your midwife.


Prenatal    visits may take place at the midwife’s home or clinic or at the    family’s home. The latter is especially comforting for the family as    they are in their own surroundings and may be less hesitant to ask    questions and get involved. Prenatal visits are also a time for the    midwife to get to know the family and friends, neighbors, or other    children who may be present at the birth.

Prenatal    care for the pregnant woman includes discussion of nutrition,    exercise and overall physical and emotional well-being, as well as    overseeing the healthy development of the fetus.Midwives    include the family during prenatal care, inviting them to ask    questions and to listen to the baby’s heartbeat. Intimate involvement    of the family throughout the pregnancy allows for early bonding of    the newly emerging family unit.

The    midwife and family will often discuss the mechanics of birth. The    more people know about what is going to happen, the more comfortable    they will be while awaiting the birth. The midwife interviews the    pregnant woman to determine if a high risk situation exits (homebirth    may not be a viable option for everyone).

Most    homebirth midwives screen out a high risk pregnancy (those with    certain special needs or medical conditions such as diabetes or blood    disorders or carrying twins or a breech baby) to birth only in the    hospital. This process is especially important for families in rural    areas many miles from a hospital.

During    this time the midwife helps the family to prepare for the birth. The    family may want to have a birth plan. This includes a list of what    will occur during the birth: special music, food and drink, candles,    religious or cultural rituals, who will be in attendance, which room    in the home will be the birthing room, what kind of support the mom    desires, etc. These steps enable the family to create the atmosphere    they want.

Continuity    of Care

After    the baby is born, the midwife doesn’t go away. She is still    accessible for information and support. This can be of great comfort    during the postpartum period when moms have questions or problems.    The midwife will continue to check in on the mother, baby and family    for a usual time frame of six weeks, although some midwives will    continue to get calls for much longer. Some families and midwives    form lasting friendships based on the joy and trust they shared at birth.

Birth    is a well designed process, and most women can give birth easily by    trusting in themselves and in their midwives or doctors. It is my    goal that the mother would travel the path of natural birth, with its    fullness and its unknowns, with the help of midwives.