Stop shaking in Parkinson’s with relaxation and stretching

As I coached my client with Parkinson, she relaxes each time I tell her to relax, deep breath and I help her move with ease. Tense muscles make it harder for her to move, stop tremors and relax. Deep breathing and exercises helped her relax. I teached her that her muscles will relax if she relax and do deep breathing. As I help her move her feet on the bed, I add stretching exercises and I press on her joints to help her. I also add leg and foot massage to help her go to sleep.

I treat my clients like my mother, a former caregiver of 18 years in the bay area who died of liver cancer.

Connie, caregiver at Motherhealth bay area caregivers 408-854-1883


When an old man died in the geriatric ward of a nursing home in an Australian country town, it was believed that he had nothing left of any value

When an old man died in the geriatric ward of a nursing home in an Australian country town, it was believed that he had nothing left of any value.
Later, when the nurses were going through his meager possessions, they found this poem. Its quality and content so impressed the staff that copies were made and distributed to every nurse in the hospital.

One nurse took her copy to Melbourne. The old man’s sole bequest to posterity has since appeared in the Christmas editions of magazines around the country and appearing in mags for Mental Health. A slide presentation has also been made based on his simple, but eloquent, poem.

And this old man, with nothing left to give to the world, is now the author of this ‘anonymous’ poem winging across the internet :


What do you see nurses? . . .. . .What do you see?
What are you thinking .. . when you’re looking at me?
A cranky old man, . . . . . .not very wise,
Uncertain of habit .. . . . . . . .. with faraway eyes?
Who dribbles his food .. . … . . and makes no reply.
When you say in a loud voice . .’I do wish you’d try!’
Who seems not to notice . . .the things that you do.
And forever is losing . . . . . .. . . A sock or shoe?
Who, resisting or not . . . … lets you do as you will,
With bathing and feeding . . . .The long day to fill?
Is that what you’re thinking?. .Is that what you see?
Then open your eyes, nurse .you’re not looking at me.
I’ll tell you who I am . . . . .. As I sit here so still,
As I do at your bidding, .. . . . as I eat at your will.
I’m a small child of Ten . .with a father and mother,
Brothers and sisters .. . . .. . who love one another
A young boy of Sixteen . . . .. with wings on his feet
Dreaming that soon now . . .. . . a lover he’ll meet.
A groom soon at Twenty . . . heart gives a leap.
Remembering, the vows .. .. .that I promised to keep.
At Twenty-Five, now . . . . .I have young of my own.
Who need me to guide . . . And a secure happy home.
A man of Thirty . .. . . . . My young now grown fast,
Bound to each other . . .. With ties that should last.
At Forty, my young sons .. .have grown and are gone,
But my woman is beside me . . to see I don’t mourn.
At Fifty, once more, .. …Babies play ’round my knee,
Again, we know children . . . . My loved one and me.
Dark days are upon me . . . . My wife is now dead.
I look at the future … . . . . I shudder with dread.
For my young are all rearing .. . . young of their own.
And I think of the years . . . And the love that I’ve known.
I’m now an old man . . . . . . .. and nature is cruel.
It’s jest to make old age . . . . . . . look like a fool.
The body, it crumbles .. .. . grace and vigor, depart.
There is now a stone . . . where I once had a heart.
But inside this old carcass….. A young man still dwells,
And now and again . . . . . my battered heart swells
I remember the joys . . . . .. . I remember the pain.
And I’m loving and living . . . . . . . life over again.
I think of the years, all too few . . .. gone too fast.
And accept the stark fact . . . that nothing can last.
So open your eyes, people .. . . . .. . . open and see.
Not a cranky old man .
Look closer . . . . see .. .. . .. …. . ME!!

Remember this poem when you next meet an older person who you might brush aside without looking at the young soul within. We will all, one day, be there, too!

The best and most beautiful things of this world can’t be seen or touched. They must be felt by the heart!


About cancer, what can you do about it?

Cancer cells are abnormal and takes over your normal cell functions and will deplete your body with important nutrients. Sounds like parasites, molds, fungus and other microbes inhabiting us and all of a sudden becomes our enemies devouring our good cells. When death occurs, they come out as black matter from liquid running out our nose or our fecal matter mixed with blood and debri of cancer cells, black.

Before cancer can multiply, there are signs that you can notice many years before from chronic lack of sleep, chronic pain, chronic fatigue, chronic bloating or metabolic disorders, chronic cough and loss of appetite or loss of weight.

What can you do about it, stay away from cancer causing fumes, molds, fungus, toxic metals, toxic foods, cancer causing or hormone disrupting chemicals from hormones fed in cows, plastics, and other carcinogens from burned BBQ meat and others you can easily notice since they are not whole foods but processed and they can make you ill, nauseous and gives you tummy or head ache.

So what else can we do about cancer, you can slowly detox your body from these toxins with sleep, clean air and water, whole foods, exercise, sunshine and avoidance of these toxins.

Hospice seniors in the bay area are increasing in numbers as cancer become the main causes of their illness. As caregivers from Motherhealth, we provide family-centered care and personalize that we treat each one like family, ensuring comfort from massage, home made foods (with thickening agent) and whole foods.

Text 408-854-1883 for holistic home health and home care aid from MOtherhealth LLC

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California Elder Care Costs for 2016

California Assisted Living Costs:

The average cost of assisted living in California in 2016 is $4,000 / month. In the most expensive areas of the state; Marin County, which includes the San Francisco area, San Mateo, San Luis Obispo, and Santa Cruz, the monthly cost ranges from $4,800 – $5,900. The least expensive assisted living can be found inland, in the cities of Madera, Merced, Stockton and Modesto. In these areas, the monthly cost is closer to $3,000.

Alzheimer’s residential care, also called Memory Care, can add as much as $1,100 to the monthly cost of assisted living.

California Home Care Costs:

The average hourly rate for home care across California is $23. The least expensive areas of the state for home care are Chico, Stockton, Vallejo, and Riverside where the cost is closer to $17 / hour. In Napa, San Jose, and San Mateo, the cost is approximately $27 / hour.

California Adult Day Care Costs:

Adult day care is the most affordable care option for seniors. In 2016, the average daily cost is $77. In San Jose, Chico, and Santa Rosa, it is more expensive, ranging from $90 – $125 / day. The least expensive areas of the state for adult day care are Stockton, Vallejo, and Visalia. Los Angeles is also slightly below the state’s average daily cost at $73 / day.


CA Financial Assistance Programs

Medi-Cal Waivers for the Elderly

Medicaid in California is called Medi-Cal. It is a program for disabled and elderly individuals and persons with limited income and resources. Through Medi-Cal, some personal care and nursing home care is provided. In addition, 4 programs (or “waivers”), also referred to as Home and Community Based Services waivers, are available that provide assistance for home care, adult day care, home modifications, and assisted living, to help prevent nursing home placement.

1) In some areas of California, Medi-Cal offers the Assisted Living Waiver, which help individuals who are eligible for nursing home care, but would prefer to live in an assisted living community. Read about the Assisted Living Waiver eligibility, benefits and locations.

2) The Multipurpose Senior Services Program (MSSP) Waiver helps nursing home eligible individuals that prefer to stay in their homes. It covers care management and supportive services, but doesn’t pay for medical care. This program unfortunately is not available in every county of California. Read about Medi-Cal MSSP Waiver eligibility requirements and benefits.

3) The Medi-Cal Nursing Facility / Acute Hospital (NF/AH) Waiver is a combination of several former waivers that helps nursing home eligible individuals receive care services, including medical care in their homes. This program also offers assistance to individuals currently residing in a nursing facility who wish to move back to their home. Read about NF/AH Waiver eligibility and benefits.

4) Medi-Cal’s Adult Day Health Care program has transitioned into the newly created Community Based Adult Services (CBAS) program. This program provides daytime care, meals, social activities, therapies, and skilled nursing. Functional needs must be met.

In order to qualify for the state Medicaid plan or one of the waivers, Medi-Cal has both income and asset qualifications. These limits depend on one’s age and marital status. As of 2016, a single elderly individual’s monthly income cannot exceed approximately $1,220 or $1,645 as a couple. An individual can qualify for Medi-Cal if the total value of their assets does not exceed $2,000, and for a couple, $3,000. One’s home and vehicle are not included in the asset calculation.

Persons with income and assets over these limits can still become eligible for Medi-Cal assistance. Individuals whose income exceeds the limit, but have high medical expenses may qualify through a Medi-Cal spenddown program called Share of Cost. Persons with assets valued over the limit might become eligible by working with a Medi-Cal planner to structure their resources appropriately. If there is some question regarding qualification, it is strongly recommended individuals contact a Medi-Cal Planner prior to application.

State (Non-Medicaid) Assistance Programs

California also offers assistance programs for the elderly that do not require an individual to qualify for Medicaid (Medi-Cal). Unfortunately, as of 2012, the budget for Alzheimer’s Day Care Resource Centers (ADCRC) was cut by the state. However, some Area Agency on Aging officesmay have funding to assist with the cost of adult day care.

The In-Home Supportive Services (IHSS) program is open to both Medicaid eligible and non-eligible persons and provides a variety of personal care supports to participants in their homes. This includes assistance with bathing, eating, dressing, meal preparation, housekeeping, and transportation assistance. This program allows individuals to choose the provider of their choosing, including family members. Read more about California IHSS eligibility and benefits

Another option for working families caring for a loved one is California Paid Family Leave. This program provides paid time off for working professionals, specifically to care for a family member.

Other Financial Options for Care

In addition to these state specific options that help pay for care, there are many non-profit and federal options. Use our Resource Locator Toolto find other programs that help pay for or reduce the cost of care.   There are also programs that help veterans with assisted living and there are eldercare loans available in California.

While reverse mortgages are available nationwide, California’s real estate values have resulted in two unique financial products which are alternatives to reverse mortgages and can be used to pay for elder care.  These are Rex Agreements and Equity Key. Unfortunately, as of March 2016, Equity Key was no longer taking applications. It currently is undetermined when they will begin accepting applications again.

Connie’s comments: Call 408-854-1883 for the most affordable senior care with live in caregivers for homebound bay area seniors.

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Downsizing seniors and moving to senior living apartments

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Moving to a senior living apartment or facility is a choice for some seniors who wanted to be close to city living and wanted to sell their homes that they cannot maintain any longer. Buying a one story home or living in a facility with elevators and in one level will help you prevent falls. Living in a senior care facility will give you peace of mind when you do not have to prepare for your meals and you can mingle with other seniors.

Call Motherhealth at 408-854-1883 for free referrals to senior care facilities or homes. It is best to budget around $6000 or more. For smaller facilities such as care homes with only 6 clients with 2 caregivers for 24/7 care, you can budget around $3500 and up.

There are times that you still need a personal caregiver, call 408-854-1883 for MOtherhealth caregivers for 24/7 care or 4-hour care.

Know what is important to you, space, amenities, day trips, and other services provided for by senior living communities, care homes or senior apartments.