Save Time, Be Happier, Eliminate Choices

Are you confronted with a choice? Here are a few suggestions to avoid getting trapped in vicious choice circles:

  1. If what you currently have works, consider staying with that. Sometimes the best choices are the ones we already made. Like a particular type of shoes? Get another of the same type. Like your laptop, get the newer version. Sure, there might be better ones out there, but finding them might be more trouble than it’s worth.
  2. Consult the experts. If you don’t know what to choose, find a reliable, robust source of data like The Wirecutter or Consumer Reports. Amazon reviews can be helpful, though not always; be sure to check out the one and two star reviews to see why people don’t like something. Remember, nothing will ever be perfect.
  3. Decide a set amount of time you have to decide. This is important. Sure, bigger decisions might require more time. You might wait more than a week to propose to that girl. But eventually decisions must be made.
  4. Make a choice and live with it. As with any choice, there will be better options we can’t make for whatever reason (insufficient information, finances, etc.). All we can do is make the best choice we can in the moment and get on with our life. Often the best choice is the one that is made.
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Connie’s comments:

  • Successful web sites, gives 3 major functions to remove clutter in their site.
  • Most successful people, list their top 3 goals and stick to it.
  • Most savers, list their top 3 needs and 3 reasons to spend.
  • Most helpful doctors, give three important lists of things to do for easy follow up on a health regimen.
  • Most admired teachers, list 3 bullet items to learn for any topics.
  • Most admired politicians, deliver on their top 5 lists to help the important needs of their constituents.
  • Most successful communicators, highlight 3 important topics and do not talk about not so important topics.
  • Always stay with rational choice, do not spend time on irrational choices.


Playful People Are At An Advantage

Summary: Playful adults are better able to reinterpret situations and reduce stress in their lives, a new study reports.

Source: MLU.

Adults can positively utilise their inclination towards playfulness in many situations. They are good at observing, can easily see things from new perspectives, and can turn monotonous tasks into something interesting. At the same time, playfulness should not be equated with humour. Instead we need a new vocabulary to describe it, write psychologists from Martin Luther University Halle-Wittenberg (MLU) in the current issue of the international journal Personality and Individual Differences.

Unlike research on playfulness in children, little research has been conducted on playfulness in adults. “Models of childhood playfulness have often been transferred to adults. This results in the loss of many aspects including those related to romantic relationships or intellectual performance,” explains Dr René Proyer from the Institute of Psychology at MLU. Playful people are able to reinterpret situations in their lives so that they experience them as entertaining or are able to reduce stress levels.

Proyer investigated this phenomenon in adults in many studies and surveys of around 3,000 people. He found that playfulness has an overlap, but no redundancy with the big five personality traits frequently used to describe personality. These include extraversion, agreeableness, conscientiousness, openness to experience and emotional stability. “Playfulness is an independent personality trait that shares certain aspects with these five global dimensions but which cannot be interchanged,” explains Proyer. The study also shows that people who describe themselves as playful are also viewed by others as such. Furthermore, playful people act out their propensity in many day-to-day situations.

The psychologist has identified four basic types of playful adults: “There are people who like to fool around with friends and acquaintances. We describe this as other-directed playfulness. By contrast, light-heartedly playful people regard their whole life as a type of game,” says Proyer. Another category includes people who like to play with thoughts and ideas – this describes intellectual playfulness. These people are able to turn monotonous tasks into something interesting. The psychologist describes the final group as being whimsically playful. “These people tend to be interested in strange and unusual things and are amused by small day-to-day observations.”

The studies reveal that playfulness in adults is expressed in very different ways and should be regarded as a positive trait. However, it has more negative connotations in the German-speaking world; playful people are sometimes not taken seriously or are seen as unreliable. Unjustly so, as Proyer relates: “When looking for solutions to complex problems, they can easily change perspectives. This allows them to find unusual and novel solutions.”

Image shows a woman in joke glasses.

The current study also provides incentives for other areas of research, such as evolutionary psychology. Even though playfulness has no direct advantage for survival, it could play an important role when choosing partners and in romantic relationships. The psychologists from Halle will be devoting their energies to this topic in the coming months.


Source: Tom Leonhardt – MLU
Image Source: image is in the public domain.
Original Research: Abstract for “A new structural model for the study of adult playfulness: Assessment and exploration of an understudied individual differences variable” by René T. Proyer in Personality and Individual Differences. Published online December 14 2016 doi:10.1016/j.paid.2016.12.011

MLU “Playful People Are At An Advantage.” NeuroscienceNews. NeuroscienceNews, 11 January 2017.


A new structural model for the study of adult playfulness: Assessment and exploration of an understudied individual differences variable

Adult playfulness is an understudied personality trait. A new 28-item questionnaire (the OLIW) is proposed that assesses four basic components; namely, Other-directed, Lighthearted, Intellectual, and Whimsical playfulness. Study 1 provides support for the factorial validity in an Exploratory (N = 628) and a Confirmatory Factor Analysis (N = 1168). Item- and scale-statistics were satisfactory. Correlations in the expected range with other playfulness questionnaires provide support for the convergent validity of the scale; there was between 3 and 30% shared variance with the big five personality traits. Test-retest reliabilities were between 0.67 and 0.87 for one-week, two-week, one-month, and three-month intervals (N = 200; using a reduced set of 12 items). Study 2 found convergence between self- and peer-reports in the expected range (i.e., 44–0.57). Participants in Study 3 (N = 295) collected daily behavior ratings for 14 days for Play, Aggression, Exhibitionism, and Impulsivity, and completed respective trait measures on day one. The OLIW demonstrated correlations between 0.29 and 0.36 for the aggregated behavior ratings, which was in the expected range. Overall, the findings for the psychometrics, reliability (internal consistency, test-retest), and validity (factorial, convergent, discriminant) are satisfactory and further use of the OLIW is encouraged.

“A new structural model for the study of adult playfulness: Assessment and exploration of an understudied individual differences variable” by René T. Proyer in Personality and Individual Differences. Published online December 14 2016 doi:10.1016/j.paid.2016.12.011

Self rated health improved after Obama’s official nomination

public-healthinclusion-healthSelf rated health improved among Blacks and Latinos after Obama’s official nomination as the Democratic Party’s candidate.

Happy people lead to health people.

Follow your heart and do not over eat on sugar

Life is short. There are many more things I want to say, do, learn and share.

But each one of us got blessed and got to be in a place by destiny and by our own passion and goals.

We cannot choose the circumstance at times but we can choose the best decision at the moment based on what we feel, see, think or visualize in the future. The best is to act consciously at the moment with open heart and eyes. There are some nuances that we cannot see right away when faced with an event or a meeting with a person.

Breath, pray and say good things. For good things come back to you.

Bless those who we touch and loved. Bless those we share moments with.

Always remember to love, be thankful and to share.


Birthday today December 8

Have you lowered your cholesterol through lifestyle changes?

I chew my food more, added probiotics and some supplements (CQ10, folic+Vit B complex, Calcium+Magnesium+Zinc) and always avoided sugar (but still eats 3 bites of chocolates every other day. I breath more, watch my body for any signs of distress (skin issues, pains, lack of sleep, mouth health, sleep quality, urine color, others). I have lemons/citrus and herbs (essential oils – tea tree, eucalyptus, lemon grass for gums, skin and other uses).

I avoided pork and bacon and other processed foods and concentrated on whole foods, fish. I shop at farmer’s market, Trader’s joes and Whole Foods Store.

I spend 30min a day at NC.Fit in the bay area for my cross-fit training with a coach (group of 2 or 4 others). I garden during summer with my mom.

I try to have a good sleep, get sunshine, get a foot massage (body included) in the bay area and maintained a non-stressful work environment (although I work 2 jobs and still creating the next best thing in health concierge site with genetic tests, personalized diet, electronic appoint scheduling with docs and more at Coming Soon ).

I dance twice a month. I am happy in knowing that my effort in ensuring the health of my 80 yr old and finances of 5 college students (3 nieces in the Philippines and 2 children in the bay area) are not in vain and it keeps me going every day and face the world with energy and enthusiasm. And that I can share what I know about health in my blog


Is there a correlation between social isolation and a weakened immune system?

Yes. In social environment, happiness and contentment can be derived. A happy person has strong immune system. Energy is created that moves immune cells to grow and be energized.